Today I was thinking that life was just a game. Of course one should also think about severity, cruelty and being serious. But according to Grazia magazine, there are 3 things girls should forget when they want to engage in a relationship with a boy.

It seems one should abandon those techniques because it makes you look like shit.

Self-image is important and you could repeat yourself “I’m a talented …”. I’m a talented musician but it seems it’s not enough: my music coach used to tell me you also have to work hard.

And maybe those techniques are just about that: you’re not working to make the relationship viable. We will examine those bad techniques using the work angle. And we all know we never want to work that hard: “I took the good times, I’ll take the bad times”. Just the way you are.

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Technic #1: Play The Asocial Mysterious Girl.

Rather than go talk to him, you prefer to sit on your bench watching him from afar. But as soon as he advances, you send him to graze and answer only by monosyllables.

From the working point of view, even if you’re talented, we can clearly see nothing will happen. You’re not working at all even though you might argue your existence demands lots of work and you would expect someone to recognise this fact.

But we can clearly see you’re not working at all here.

It’s cool to be talented because maybe you don’t have to work like others do. But at some point you will to work: even Michael Jordan had a strong work ethic. As far as I’m concerned, I’m doing like Jimi Hendrix: I try to get up everyday. And Hendrix created new words with his guitar.

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Technic #2: Make Your Partner Jealous.

I know a lot about this technic: one of my former partner wanted to make me jealous. But it really didn’t work out and I ditched her like she was the witch queen of New Orleans.

Making people jealous is a bit strange when you think about it. But I guess it can happen naturally even though here we’re talking about consciously and knowingly making someone jealous.

Here from the working angle, you are transferring all the work to your partner while you will sit on a couch and watch The Bold and The Beautiful. This technic is close to the absurdity of prostitution.

Take for example the music: when I listen to Jimi Hendrix, I’m not jealous. I appreciate what he does and I try to understand. Of course I try to play his songs note for note. Do you think Hendrix wanted to make me jealous with his mastery of guitar? No he worked a lot before the Experience and that’s why there’s a bit of soul in his music.

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Technic #3: Make Your Potential Partner Wait.

I know you have a busy life. And sharing a few moment with you is somewhat extraordinary. But if you want to be in a relationship, your partner needs to know that you have time to spare. Otherwise who wants to be in a relationship with someone who won’t have time for kids?

I get it: it’s been 3 years since you’ve knocked on the door. You don’t want to wait in vain and you feel a bit lonely. But those who don’t have time will never find love. Take for example my case: I used to have a few friends, go to school and see my family for holidays. But as soon as I had a little time, I was listening to music or practicing the guitar.

I even managed to listen to music while studying or playing on the computer.

So maybe if you want to be in a relationship you need to be able to do 2 things at the same time: take care of you and take care of him. It shouldn’t make you work that hard.

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How Much Work Does A Relationship Need?

Yes you’re talented and doing some things you shouldn’t do doesn’t mean a thing. But you have to work. A strong work ethic will allow you to get better and better.

When a relationship is making you work too hard, it’s time to sit down and relax. You must forget the relationship and you will find a solution. But the 3 techniques I mentioned seem like a real problem.

If life is just a game then I guess it’s not really a big problem. Of course, the outcome of the flirt could make you wonder if this a good thing. But we all need goto moves to have that high percentage humanity.

As far as I’m concerned, I noticed that I have healthier relationships with people and women when sex, money and debate is taken out of the equation.

You also need to have confidence: confidence in yourself, confidence in others and also confidence in authorities.

Nicolas Sursock

Written by Nicolas Sursock

Nicolas is a musician. His work now focuses on digesting 10000 songs of jazz, blues, soul, rock, funk and electronic. He plays the guitar if he's not blogging.